Sounds impossible? Well, it’s not.
When we’re aware — first and foremost — of the energy around us, we can be more conscious of the energy we attract and put out.
We can actually create a higher vibration for ourselves, for our spirit, and for our lives.
We Are Energy
Think about it — we are made of energy.
All of our atoms are swirling around, popping in and out of existence.
This is the dominant energy and frequency that we carry.
And energy entrains.
That means it syncs up.
One easy way to see this is to think about walking into your office…
and there’s someone — maybe historically crabby — in a bad mood.
All of a sudden, you start to feel crabby, or critical. You’re less patient, maybe even negative yourself.
Being around negativity lowers our frequency.
It lowers our vibration.
Until our own little ego — our barking dog — has a lot to say.
Where Negativity Comes From
Negativity is a very low frequency.
And most of the time, it comes from our ego intellect — that part of our brain that helps us organize the world and, importantly, protect ourselves.
We all have something called a negativity bias.
It’s evolutionary — we developed it millions of years ago to protect ourselves from danger.
Back then, it helped us avoid saber-toothed tigers.
Now? The threats are less life-threatening… maybe it’s a coworker, or a family member, or just stress from life.
But our brain still looks for what’s not working.
Negativity is trying to protect us. But because the “dangers” are different now, we often get stuck in a rut — replaying what’s wrong over and over again.
The Negative Spiral
Have you ever had a morning like this?
You wake up in a mood.
Then you spill your coffee.
Then you can’t find your car keys.
Then you’re late.
And suddenly everything — everything people say, everything you feel — starts to snowball negatively.
That’s a negative rut in action.
Negativity isn’t bad — it’s okay to have bad moods.
But when we’re not conscious of our personal energy or the energy we surround ourselves with, we can actually absorb negativity that’s not even ours.
Tool #1: Be Conscious
Check in with your own energy field.
- Have you done anything to take care of yourself today?
- Do you need a time-out?
- Do you need help?
- Do you just need a place to vent?
These things create more internal space.
Tool #2: Emotional Contagion is Real
We mirror each other’s energy.
There’s a real thing in sociology called emotional contagion —
It means strong emotions can spread like a cold.
It happens in real life…
and it happens online too.
If you’re constantly seeing negative posts or surrounded by people who only talk about what’s not working — that affects your physical, emotional, and spiritual self.
It’s contagious. You’ll feel your spirit wilt like a flower.
So be mindful of the energy surrounding you. Pay attention to the conversations you participate in. Notice your own emotional availability.
Tool #3: Redirect the Energy
If you’re around someone who’s negative — a friend, a coworker, a family member — and you’re getting pulled in…
Try this simple shift:
“Hey, I hear you. Let’s change the subject.”
And then redirect with a topic you love.
I keep a bunch in my back pocket — favorite books, podcasts, even good questions. It’s a quick way to raise the vibe.
Tool #4: Love Your Sweet Self
Negativity often shows up when your sweet little self is tired or overwhelmed.
When I’m exhausted, I get way more critical — especially toward myself.
My inner critic gets loud.
And that little voice says:
- “You’re not good enough.”
- “You haven’t done enough.”
- “You’re falling behind.”
Sound familiar?
It’s usually worse when we’re comparing — scrolling social media at the end of a long day, feeling depleted.
Try asking:
- Is that true?
- Is it helpful?
- Is it even necessary?
Usually, it’s not.
Tool #5: Shift to Your Heart Space
Want to raise your vibration quickly?
Talk about:
- What you love about yourself
- What you’re proud of
- What you’re grateful for
All of those connect you to your heart — and immediately shift your energy up.
Tool #6: Change Your Perspective
Negative emotions are not bad — they just point to what matters.
But the stories we tell ourselves about those emotions?
That’s where we get stuck.
Remember: Your stories are informed by the past.
They are not the full truth.
You get to shift your perspective.
Example:
“I haven’t called my best friend. I’m a bad friend.”
Flip it:
“I’m doing my best. I care deeply. Friendships matter to me — and that’s where I want to put more energy.”
That’s how you turn negative energy into truth, connection, and empowerment.
You Always Have a Choice
If you’re stuck in negativity — in your own mind or in your relationships — remember:
- You have choice.
- You have power.
- You have tools.
Be conscious of who you surround yourself with. Notice your conversations.
If you find yourself slipping into gossip or complaining, pause.
Change the subject. Do something different.
When we reconnect to our heart space, we reconnect to our truth — and to our divine selves.
One of my favorite tools?
Hand on your heart. Hand on your belly.
Deep breath.
Feel your spirit return to the present moment — the only place you have real choice.
A Loving Reminder
The world can be a lot.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone.
Negativity isn’t who you are.
It’s a flag — a sign that your spirit needs attention and care.
So whether it’s setting a boundary, changing a conversation, or just placing your hand over your solar plexus and taking a breath…
You can shift your energy, raise your vibration, and return home to your truth.
I’d love to hear from you! Tell me in the comments:
How do you deal with negativity in your life?
And if you haven’t already:
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You are a bright light. I love you so much.
Sending all my love always,
Sonia
